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So e-days was fun, blew shit up, drank , you know all the fun things in life. I actually got drunk for my first time ( not much of an accomplishment, but now I know my limit.) Anyway that's not important. My question is in regards to some events that happened. I already made my decision, but my parents told me otherwise and I can definitly see both sides of the issue. It all started on Saturday when we held a BBQ at the house. I had a drink called "jungle juice"(very strong) and some Bailey's. We then went to a comedian that the school was hosting. There I ran into a friend from DU. She was drunk and I was tipsy and we talked about what was new. She proceeded to tell me how she hates her boyfriend and how she plans on breaking up. She then gave my her number and told me to call her after the comedian so that she could come over. I didn't call her because I reasoned that she was drunk, and if she came over it probably would have screwed up a lot of shit for both of us. I did call her to apologize and to make sure she was alright on Sunday. I think that was the right decision. My parents however felt differently. I know that I am not real assertive or preceptive when it comes to women. I precieved it as her blowing off steam and just casual chat. I also don't like to do anything that might hurt people. I have not generally been known to voice my opinions in situations such as this because I don't want to be the dumbass who thought that there was something there that wasn't. Any thoughts on what I should have done, or on how to be better at letting people know where I stand rather than giving the wrong impression. I know this sounds weak, but I don't know what I should have done.Peace and Love
Jens
other thoughts: Baileys, kalua, icecream, and milk in a blender is really good
posted by J @ 8:08 PM
2 Comments:
from what you've written, I don't see what the problem was. You probably did the right thing in not calling her while you were both blasted. Its good that you told her how you felt, and its good that you didn't give her a way to cheat on her boyfriend. What seems to be the issue then? Try talking to her again later... see how she still feels, and try to figure out together if she or you have stuff to talk about, would enjoy being and/or drinking together, etc. Time is the best test, and so is sobriety, but follow your own mind, your own reason, and your own schedule. Parents are good for advice, but so are other people who are older and wiser and more removed from your situation.
Doing anything while drunk is probably a bad idea, but that doesn't mean the feelings aren't real. To some degree, being drunk allows you to do things you wouldn't normally do, but have always wanted to do. This girl may have had a crush on you for a long time and just didn't know how to ask you. You could just ignore the entire event and that would be a safe move, but I would call her up and see if she was sincere about her actions. If so, then awesome (especially if you like her); if not, no harm - no foul.
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